We've all heard the myth that black men have their pick of the pack when it comes to dating. So rather than relaxing and trying to have fun with potential dates, we're caught up in the impossible game of trying to seem fun and ambitious and feminine and flirty Women are penalized for waiting to get married, while men are rewarded for their patience. Now, knowing all this data doesn't mean that next time you go out, the black man of your dreams is magically going to start chatting you up.